Quick. What do you find beautiful? If you are like the hundreds of people that I have talked to over the years, you did not say tall, blond, and thin. If you were talking about a person, you probably said something about confidence. If you were talking about something that is a part of nature or life, you probably said something that revealed the uniqueness of a moment or a creature.
Here is what I find fascinating. When people talk about what draws them to others, they always talk about something magnetic in the person, one’s charisma and presence, in short, confidence. When people talk about draws them to something in life or in nature, there is often something unique, vulnerable, or singularly personal being expressed.
And, yet, when I ask a person whether or not she or he is beautiful or handsome and what standard is being used to define beautiful or handsome, it’s never confidence. It’s that media-driven standard we hear so much about: being tall enough, thin enough, muscular enough, tan enough, young enough. We are willing to judge others on their presence, but for ourselves, nothing but perfection- the media’s idea of perfection- will do. And if I ask that same person if he or she has a beautiful life, they further hem-and-haw, because their life doesn’t look like the lives we see in the media. Yet, every day, there is probably a moment of beauty so profound in their day that if they just noticed it, they might be moved to tears of gratitude. But it can’t be beautiful, we think, because it is just my little ole’ life.
Well, here’s the thing. You are beautiful. Your life is beautiful. And today is all about noticing that.
Start your day today, by defining what you find beautiful in people and in life. Next, go through the day and just notice everything you see that you find beautiful. It might be the more common things you find on such a list: your child’s smile, a sunset. But my guess is that, when you crack yourself open in a way to receive beauty everywhere, there will be some delightful surprises, too. By beginning a practice of claiming what is beautiful for you and then nothing beauty in your life, you instantly brighten your life experience.
1. What is your definition of beautiful?
2. What beautiful things did you notice today? How did these observations impact you?
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