Falling in love isn’t really a choice, and it shouldn’t be– if you are choosing to love someone, then it’s a reach. The key in life is not to look for someone you can live with but to wait until someone finds you that you can’t live without—even if it is just for a period of time. If you wait for that, then a lot of it just falls into place. Too often, though, we reason why its okay to be without someone who isn’t someone we can’t live without. Being in a relationship like that is too hard and relationships themselves are hard enough without it being based on being unabashedly on the way to or already in love. And everyday in a relationship that is young, the answers to these questions should be yes: Am I learning? Am I having fun? Is my best being brought out? Am I bringing out someone else’s best? Ultimately, while it seems counterintuitive– the love you are meant to have will find you. Wait for it. Don’t search for it. Don’t fret. And when it arrives, as my friend Katie once told me Christoper Robbin told Winnie or Winnie told Piglet or some sort of conversation along those lines, don’t wonder why it is there. Just enjoy it.
