It’s the first Mother’s Day in our family. I’m overwhelmed by this, but, perhaps, not for the reasons you think. Sure, it still surprises me that I am a mom. But, really, what overwhelms me, what touches me, what humbles me most of all is my connection to another mother– baby’s biological mother. There is not a day that goes by where I do not think about her, where I do not hold her in my heart. Her story– what little we might know– is our baby’s alone. But her presence in my heart is so significant that it is she who I am thinking about as Mother’s Day approaches. It is she who I want to honor. It is she who I want to celebrate, commemorate, remember. She gave birth to a smart, radiant, healthy, beautiful baby boy, and we are his trusted guides in this life. I want our baby boy to always know how much we honor his birth parents, and I want– even if it cannot literally be communicated– to always put out into the world the very reverence, respect, gratitude I have for them. To that end, I’m been thinking about Mother’s and Father’s Day and how we might celebrate the people who gave our baby life.
There are many ways that adoptive families honor birth parents. Some plant a fruit tree. Others plant perennial gardens. Some write prayers and release them into the world– via a helium ballon or message in a bottle. I’ve filed away naming stars for baby’s parents or even having him write and draw a picture book dedicated to them when he’s older and if he so chooses. But there’s the very real moment of this year’s Mother’s and Father’s Day approaching, and I want to do something that symbolizes nurturing life. The idea I am playing around with is planting a vegetable garden in the small patch of our yard that actually gets sunlight and letting it be a place where a tribute can be added each year– maybe a bench, a stepping stone, some perennial flowers, a fruit tree. So if the weather’s good and we can free up some time this weekend, I am hoping we’ll all be in our back yard, celebrating life, baby, and mothers.
Rosie, that is just the sweetest. The world is lucky to have you as a mother.
FELIZ DIA DE LA MADRE ROSIE
How inspiring!!!Today we will be in our back yard planting a medicinal healing herb garden dedicating a nutrirional herb for you me and our birthmothers, Damos gracias.
We are waiting for that special call about our Colombian bebito (We have requested twins with African descent) We started the process on 14Dec2007/Jan 08 our papers made it to the orphanage and now by March 2010 they will ring us…….
Ella dio a LUZ a un fuertissimo, quapissimo baby A.Rosie you continue with this resplandeciente LUZ that guides his every step that he creates. Rosa de Byron Bay Australia
Thank you, Jenny! That means a lot coming from one of the best mamas I know– and one I learn from everyday.
Rosa, I love the idea of a medicinal healing garden– what a lovely idea! And the story of your family coming together sounds really amazing. I hope you’ll keep me posted! Wishing you all the best y un feliz dia de la madre indeed!
Con un abrazo fuerte, Rosie
Rosie!
Happy Mother’s Day on your first one! This was an inspiring post.
It takes a special person to think about her child’s biological mother during her first mother’s day. And you are!
Hugs and kisses to you and Sweet Baby A.
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