On Monday, I shared my best and worst professional habits and how I was hoping to navigate them as I start a new school year. Today, I am looking at my personal habits and considering which ones to really amp up and which ones to dial down as the back to school countdown continues.
Planning our meals. Every Friday, I plan our meals for the next week and then on Saturday morning I do our grocery shopping for the week. Knowing what we are going to eat each night helps to make the day more seamless (it is so nice not to have to expend energy on thinking about dinner and cooking it) and allows BF to easily get started on dinner if I am delayed with something. It also helps me not to resort to pizza every single night since by Wednesday, I don’t really care what we are having for dinner. Having it written just takes the emotion out of it. “Oh, we’re having black bean pie,” I think. “Fine.”
Sharing information. One of my other Friday tasks is updating the family calendar for the next week. It alerts all of us to appointments, lessons, etc. so that we are on the same page about who needs to be where and when. We use a big wall calendar by the door we enter most often, but I know some people who use Cozi. What you use doesn’t matter nearly as much as everyone having access to the information.
Not procrastinating. For the most part, I am not a procrastinator. I figure out what needs to be done, break it down into little palpable bites, and do each piece on the day that I plan to do it. Not backing myself into a corner with having to get things done is one of the kindest things I do for myself. Also, I very rarely stare down a deadline at the 11th hour which greatly reduces my stress.
Accepting myself. I am not verbally or mentally mean to myself. I know that beating myself up is defeating rather than motivating and so I just don’t go there. I can look at a situation and say, “Oh, I could have done this better” and that observation doesn’t make me feel bad (this was a learned behavior and one you can learn, too). Observing the circumstances around me as well as my own choices as just giving me information (as opposed to ways to judge myself) makes me feel informed and empowered– like I can keep growing rather than fall into the limited belief that I am stagnating.
Sweet tooth. If I am totally honest, my absolute worst habit is that I have a sweet tooth. I don’t drink coffee, but I love a mid-day can of Coke. While we don’t really have sweets in our house, it is hard for me to pass by a candy dish elsewhere. I like sugar for the taste and I like sugar for the energy rush and I’d like to not have such a 7 year old affection for it.
Scratching workouts. I like to get out a workout first thing in the morning but if life hits the fan (Happy wakes up earlier than normal, a flurry of overnight emails leaves me feeling panicked, etc), I will ditch my morning workout to work or be productive in some way which never really does as much for me as having worked out would (because, let’s face it, a workout would totally give me an energy high but if I skip it I become even more dependent on that mid-day sugar high). This hyper-productivity sabotages me in multiple ways and it is the behavior I most want to crush this fall (it is a double edged sword because I can get a lot done in a fairly small amount of time but I really don’t like the trade-off as that hyper-focused girl isn’t my favorite version of myself) and so it’s getting its own post next week (the better to think it all through before divorcing it and also because I know that I am not alone). Bottom-line: hyper-productivity is my absolute worst habit, scratching workouts is just a symptom of it.
I’ve been working on dialing down both my sweet tooth and hyper productive mode but both will receive even more attention in the coming months. What habits are you dialing up or down this fall?