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Letting go of conditions

Letting go of conditions

  Conditions.  We’ve all had that at some point. I would be so much happier if I lost twenty pounds. I could be happier if my house was completely organized and running like a well-oiled machine. I can finally relax when my kids are married and having their own children and I don’t have to […]

because clarity matters…

Clarity. We all want it. We yearn to get clear, to know who it is we are, what it is we have to offer, how it is we are meant to be in the world. We think that everyone else has it.  That we are the only ones confused.  That we have to go on […]

Self-care for when life sucks

Self-care for when life sucks

Your infant isn’t sleeping so you aren’t sleeping. One of your parents has just suffered a significant health crisis. Your relationship is on the rocks. Your job situation is tough-and-go. An unexpected emergency means the bills are getting increasingly hard to pay. Sometimes, life just bites.  When that happens, we often switch into overdrive, doing […]

Be the light…

Be the light…

I started the new year with enthusiasm.  This was the year that I was going to start running earlier than I normally do (I am a fair weather runner which means I usually run from March to October), get started on my next book, get back to a more regular work day with Happy heading […]

The journey is the goal...

The journey is the goal…

“Oh, I couldn’t do that.  I’d have to be a completely different size before I can take such a nice vacation,” a friend said when a girls’ Caribbean vacation was suggested. “I am thirty-five years old, and I thought my life was going to have started by now,” lamented a colleague who meant “married and […]

Practicing generosity

Practicing generosity

I was a sophomore in college when I learned one of the principles that still guides me today. Visiting with a friend who lived down the hall, I commented on a beautiful piece of artwork she had framed on her desk, a delicate rendering of flowers with an inspirational saying woven in between petals. “Oh, […]

an exercise in grounding

an exercise in grounding

I was needing some grounding recently and while that can sometimes come with big swatches of time spent outside (the great outdoors have always given me some great perspective), the weather has made that hard so I went to my other big outlet– paper.   Want to take a few minutes to gather your thoughts? […]

Have drama? A guide to smoothing things over

Have drama? A guide to smoothing things over

There is nothing that puts a pit in my stomach faster than drama: both the drama of actual hard things and then the drama that we can stir up about actual hard things.   Heck, I can even get a pit in my stomach over imagined hard things. Case in point: a young friend sent me […]

Teaching truth

Teaching truth

There had always been hints of it.  But it was in the spring of my ninth grade year that I came to understand that the ideas some people had about what being a Latina might mean could actually impact my life. As my high school guidance counselor assessed me for the first time to get me […]

Your worth is not made-up

Your worth is not made-up

“So, is it okay to care about what we wear or put on make-up,” I was asked at a recent workshop I led on body image and self-acceptance. And I instantly loved that question. But before I can answer that question here, I want to share with you want informs my answer. To me, radical […]