We so often want everything we do to have so much more redeeming value. It has to help us lose a pound or get a job. But doing things that are just kind to ourselves, that place a premium on our worth, actually have a pretty significant positive impact on our sense of well-being.
Years ago, I was planning an important project with a colleague. We often met in her office, where she always had a vase of fresh flowers in her office. I assumed they were from her husband, but one week I mentioned them, and she said she bought them for herself every week.
Yep, that’s right. Every single Sunday, while she was grocery shopping, she picked up a bouquet of flowers for her desk at work- the place where she spent the most time- because she liked flowers and liked herself and felt like SHE was fully capable of giving herself joy. She loved flowers and while her husband is one of the sweetest men I know, she wasn’t going to wait around for him to give him to her. Moreover, she wasn’t going to relegate something she so enjoyed to just special occasion status. In her world, every day was a special occasion and her joy was not fleeting. Why not just give yourself joy every day? Why not indeed. Buying yourself flowers is such a simple act of self-love and an easy way to bring beauty into your daily life.
I now have a vase made by a NC potter that is my flower vase and every time I am particularly struck by a delightful bouquet whether it is at the grocery store or the farmer’s market, I buy myself flowers. I also love the metaphor- no two flowers are exactly alike, but they are each uniquely beautiful, just like people.
Today: Go buy (or pick) yourself some flowers that make you smile and put them somewhere that will catch your eye often. If anyone asks you who gave you the flowers, don’t hesitate to share that you bought them for yourself. Honoring ourselves- and letting others know it is okay to honor themselves- is powerful self-acceptance!
1. What kind of flowers did you get and where did you place them?
2. How did it feel to buy flowers for yourself?
3. How did the flowers make you feel?
4. Can you see yourself doing this again?
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