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this moment

this moment

A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

You are what you do

You are what you do

“I am trying to become a writer,” Page says as we work our way around the circle in introductions.   It is Saturday, and we are at Equinox- a creativity retreat that me and Kris, my friend and equine assisted learning partner, are facilitating.  A group of women sits around the table talking about why […]

There’s enough. Don’t worry. Don’t compete.

This week is Teen Week: Words that Heal, inspired by the genius that is Mara at Medicinal Marzipan.  When she initially wrote to ask if I’d participate, she asked, “what would you tell your teen self?”  I wrote a blog post answering this very question a couple years ago and so I thought I’d repost […]

Teen Week: It is Not Too Early or Too Late.

I am honored this week to be participating in TEEN WEEK, a campaign inspired by Mara at Medicinal Marzipan and meant to offer teen readers thoughtful company on their journey to self-acceptance.  Today, I am sharing what was at the root of my self-acceptance journey, as my efforts really started at a young age.  Want […]

On Loving and Raising a Black Boy

On Loving and Raising a Black Boy

For a long time, my ethnicity mattered a whole lot to other people.  I wasn’t yet fully formed.  I didn’t yet have work that I did, causes that I supported, a fundamental way that I moved through the world that others could reliably see and use to define me and so how I looked, where […]

this moment

this moment

A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Guest Post: Do you know if you're leading an inauthentic life?

Guest Post: Do you know if you’re leading an inauthentic life?

Karen Evans is another Twitter friend who is based in the UK and is one of the owners of Being Totally Me.  She is a former City Banker who decided to change direction to help women tackle the stuff that gets in their way on a daily basis (often things they think they cannot change). […]

Twenty questions

Twenty questions

Back when Beautiful You was debuting, awesome Kate (she just calls herself Kate, I call her awesome) from Thighs and Offerings featured me and BY on her blog as part of my blog tour.  She asked me 20 questions that were really awesome and really made me think and today, I am sharing my answers […]

Guest Post: Abandoned or Chosen?

Guest Post: Abandoned or Chosen?

I met KatieP on Twitter and am so glad I did.  Her blog is incredible: thoughtful, challenging in the best possible way, brave, pure.  This piece she generously shares with us today was especially interesting to me  as it involves both adoption and self-acceptance.  It’s powerful, and I am honored to share it with you: […]

looking for inspiration

looking for inspiration

This past Saturday, I drove to South Carolina to meet my sister and hear Jodi Picoult speak.  To pull it off, I had to turn over the bulk of my day– from 9 am until 6 pm– to it, and just as I was going to bed on Friday night, a thought flashed through my […]